Reality of Sex Chat/Club Sites - SLC

I would like to here from men if they have ever actually met someone from a site and from woman if they ever actually do meet men and what advise they may have to improve chances. I have tried a few sites, including this one, and after numerous attempts, have not once, met someone in person. Chats seem to just want you to purchase additional credits as if they are employees of the site. Is this just wishful thinking? It's rather discouraging & seems like a fantasy in itself, but WHAT IS THE REALITY??! Searching for a Meet & Greet in Salt Lake City... particularly one along the lines outlined in my ads & on my profile or is this just a pipe-dream??? REALITY CHECK PLEASE!